The holidays are a beautiful time with gifts and food, and family. When we think of the holidays, we think of family time and spending it with the ones we love.
Some people, though, do not have that. Lately, as someone that has always spent the holidays with their family, as an adult, things have changed a lot for me, and the one thing I felt best to do was share my experience and be vulnerable; someone out there may be going through the same thing.
Being someone with a family that loves them is very special to me, but what do you do if you and your family are in two different mental places? What do you do if your family is mentally abusive or damaging? How do people maneuver through that?
Love and distance can coincide together; that is what I have noticed. You can love people from a distance; the most important thing is to listen to your body and follow your gut. YOU always know what feels good and what doesn't, what is good for you and what is bad for you, WHO is good for you, and who is bad for you. Regardless of if it is family or a person from work, you know how you feel.
Our families not being on the same wave as us mentally or spiritually does not have to be wrong, but it also doesn't mean we need to be in spaces where we are uncomfortable or unable to be our whole selves. For a long time, I have felt that just because it is "family," we have to stick through the abuse or even enable certain behaviors, but that is not true. Creating boundaries and space for growth is the most significant gift we can give everyone.
Love is real, and the most remarkable thing we can do is give it to ourselves. The moment of choosing ourselves instead of what we THINK is right is what is essential. Honestly and truly, fuck the rest, fuck what others think of us as long as our intention is good, and we are doing what is best for our highest self; that is all that matters. Please do not let anyone bring you down for a tradition that was not meant for us anyways lol (iykyk)
In my next blog post of will dive more into Human Design, but we all have the choice to follow our inner authority and strategy, and that is the best way to make decisions to know what is best for us during this time dealing with those that may not be the best company for us during the holidays